How to be an inspiration? Do you have to be very successful to be considered as an inspiration? Do you need to be professional to be an inspiration? Do you need to be famous to be an inspiration?
Anybody can be an inspiration.
Sometimes, people tend to be more specific with the things that they want and things that they need only because they see it from others that they consider as inspirations. But if you come to take a look at the deeper side of each person’s perspective in life, you can actually consider them as an inspiration, not because of how they look but how they manage their good deeds…
Be an inspiration, do what is right and you will be a blessing to others…
“Bet nya ako talaga or Bet nya ako dahil may pera ako?
The Love Guru (Q1)”
Ang unang tanong natin ngayon ay galing sa isang babae na sabihin na nating may kaya, may pera, may magandang trabaho at may marangyang pamumuhay. May nameet sya na guy na isa namang hindi nakakaangat sa buhay at tipikal na isang kahig isang tuka. (Our first message sender for today is a woman who has money, has a nice job and is living a good life. She met a guy who happens to be just a typical less fortunate guy).
Sabi nga nya, bakit daw ganon? Mahal sya dahil kailangan sya or kailangan sya dahil mahal sya? Lakas maka Jenny – Claudine Baretto, sa pelikulang Milan. (Just like what she mentioned, Why is it like that? Does he really love me or He only loves me because I have money and I can provide him everything that he wants/needs? Sounded like Jenny – Claudine Baretto from the movie Milan).
Bilang isang Love guru, ako ay taga payo lamang base sa side ng parehong partido at palagi kong sinasabi sa aking mga tagapakinig na kahit ano pa mang sabihin sayo ng ibang tao, ilang tao man ang tanungin mo ng opinyon nila, desisyon mo pa din ang masusunod. (As a love guru, I always have to advise based on the situation of both sides and I always tell my listerners/readers that whatever answers you get from people, still, you are the only person who is responsible of your decision and your feelings).
Simulan natin sa “Bet nya ako talaga or Bet nya ako dahil may pera ako at binibili ko ang mga gusto nya?” Una sa lahat tyang, kung mahal ka ng isang tao at nararamdaman mong mahal ka nya, wag mong kwestyunin kung mahal ka nya talaga o hindi. Kung sakali na meron ka man ibinibigay saknya o inireregalo sa kanya, yung ay dahil choice mo yun. kung sakali nmn na nagpabili sya sayo, ang daming dahilan na pwede mong gamitin para humindi kung ayaw mo, pero dahil gusto mo kaya bumili ka. Ganon lang kasimple yun. (Let’s start with her question, Does he really like me or he only does because I have money and I can provide him everything he wants and needs? First and foremost, if you really love the person, do not question him if he really likes/loves you or not. If you give him gifts, then that’s because it’s your choice. If ever, he asks you to buy things for him, there are thousands of reasons that you can use just to say NO. But since you like to give him what he asked you to, then it’s because it’s your choice. It’s as simple as that.)
Ang pagiging angat mo sa buhay ay hindi rason para hindi mo pagkatiwalaan ang pagmamahal ng isang tao sayo. Dito sa atin hindi na bago ang pagkakaron ng ganitong uri ng relasyon. At luma na din ang ganito usapin na ang lalaki o babae eh maaaring maging isang pasanin ng isang taong nakakaangat. NGUNIT, hindi ito pang kalahatan. Maaaring may mga taong ganito pero meron din silang mga kanya kanyang dahilan. (Being a deep-pocketed person doesn’t mean you have the right to not trust a person about his/her feelings for you. This kind of situation is not unusual in our country. And this kind of story is also not surprising. But I am not saying that this is applicable to everyone. There might be people around you who are like the guy in the story or the girl. But let us also understand that they might have their own reasons why.)
Hindi na nya kailangan magtrabaho dahil ayaw nya.
Ayaw nya ng magtrabaho dahil sinanay mo sya na ibigay ang lahat ng naisin nya.
Sadyang yun lang ang naabot ng kanyang kakayahan at hindi na nya kaya pa maghanap ng trabahong naaangkop sa kanya.
Maaaring may mabigat syang dahilan gaya ng malubhang sakit, pamilya, or ugaling hindi katanggap tanggap sa loob ng isang opisina.
He/ She doesn’t need to work because he/she doesn’t want to.
He/She doesn’t want to work because you tolerated this kind of situation.
He/She couldn’t find a job that fits his personality or educational attainment.
He/She might be having a deeper reason such as not being fit to work, has a family problem or has an attitude problem.
Pero kahit anong uri pa ng estado sa buhay ng isang tao ang iyong makilala o mahalin, hindi ito kailanman magiging rason para sya’y iyong ibaba. Ang pagmamahal ng isang tao ay nararamdaman at hindi nakikita ng mata o nararamdaman ng bulsa. (But whatever status in life a person has, it doesn’t make him less of a person. Loving a person cannot be seen by the eyes nor felt by what’s in his or her pocket.)
So kung mahal ka nya at ramdam mong mahal ka nya, wag mong kwestyunin kung bakit. Maaaring ikaw ang ngayon na nakakaangat sa buhay at nakakapag regalo sa kanya ng magagandang bagay, at nasasayo na kung tatanggapin mo sya dahil wala sya naireregalo sa yo or wala pa syang pambili para maibigay ang pangangailangan mo. Pero tandaan, ang buhay ay parang gulong. Umiikot yan. Maaaring dumating ang panahon na ikaw nmn ang makaranas ng ganon. Hindi man sa kanya, baka sa iba. (So, if a person loves you and you feel like it’s true, then stop questionning the person or yourself if it’s real or not. Maybe right at this moment, it’s you who is more fortunate to give than to receive. It’s always up to you if you’d accept him even if he cannot provide you the same things that you are providing him. Remember, life is like a wheel. It might turn the situation upside down. It could be with the same person or not.)
Sa buhay, may 3 tao tayo na makikilala. Una, taong tuturuan natin, Ikalawa, taong tuturuan nmn tayo, Ikatlo, pareho. Stick ka dun, baka sakaling un na! 🙂
(In life, there’s always these 3 people that we/d meet. First, the person who will learn from us, Second, the person who will teach us and Third, both 1st and 2nd. Stick with him! It might be the one!)
“The more people you trust, the more people ruin your life”
See, you do not have to tell people about what you do everyday. You do not have to inform them about your whereabouts, your love life, your job, your plans and all. You are just giving them the right to meddle in your game.
You can just make your life simple by living in peace… You can have as much friends as you want, you can travel with your crowd countless times, you can always, always live life to the fullest but consider keeping things on your own… Or at least with a few people who believe in you.
Out of 10 people, there are only 3 who care. The rest belongs to your audience… 🙂
The survival of these 3 young women who were abducted for a decade just made an enormous impact to people not just around the neighborhood but also around the world.
What really happened inside the house on Seymour St. in Cleveland Ohio? Where have all the girls gone? Who is this little girl coming in and out of the monster’s house?
In 2002, Michelle Knight who was then a 21-year old single mom was abducted by a certain Ariel Castro who happened to be living just a couple of blocks away from her parents’ house. Michelle called her mother a few hours before she was abducted and was told to pick her son up in school. She asked a man if he can help her in giving directions on the way to her son’s school since it’s her mother’s duty everyday. The man said he doesn’t know how to go there. And there was this other man who came up to her and told her that he knows how to go to that area that she needs to reach this afternoon. When she looked at him, she recognized that the man talking to her is the father of her friend.
Ariel Castro offered a ride taking her to the school of Michelle’s son. On their way there, he kept on telling her things about life, dogs and his puppies which caught her attention. “Oh really? Maybe you can give me one for my son.” She cracked a joke. And he said “Sure! Let’s drop by my house so we can get one.”
Upon reaching the back door, Michelle had no idea that Ariel already locked the gate and told her that he placed the puppies at the attic because he didn’t want them to make a mess on the first floor when he isn’t around.
Michelle was a little nervous going up the stairs but she trusted Ariel knowing that he’s the father of her friend. And when they reached the room, finding the puppies, he shut the door, the windows, grabbed her arms, tied and hung her up on the ceiling with an extension. That is how she was abducted.
A year after, another girl named Amanda Berry was reported missing. A girl who just left work one afternoon of 2003. She was offered a ride by the father of someone who used to be Amanda’s former workmate in Burger King. A year after, another girl named Gina De Jesus was reported missing.
See that’s how they were abducted by this man who became even more famous for being called as a monster. Why and how in hell had he ever done this kind of cruelty?
Ariel Castro, a school bus driver, was a man of music. He was known for playing bass guitar, went to church every Sunday. Greets people and waves hello and goodbye in the neighborhood every single day. He even had the guts to hug the mother and lit a candle for Gina De Jesus when her parents remembered her a year after on the same day she was reported missing.
What really happened inside the monster’s house for 11 years? How did the young girls live their lives inside this house of horror? And how were these girls found after 11 years?
Ariel Castro abducted the girls and gave them hell in this house of horror. Raped them more than 5 consecutive times a day, beat them, locked them, chained them, cursed them, starved them to death and most of the time treated them awfully especially when the girls try to escape. They realized one day that if they keep on showing Ariel that they are sad and they are furious, Ariel would most likely keep on doing the same things to them. So they just tried to accept things as it is. And that was the time Ariel unlocked them from the chains and let them roam around the house except when there are visitors.
Michelle Knight got pregnant for more than 5 times but Ariel Castro did a lot of things to abort the baby. He had a child named Jocelyn with Amanda Berry whom he treated like his own wife.
Ariel’s ex-wife and kids left him because he used to beat her with anything that he can hold. Ariel was never a good husband, but was a good father… At first.
Ariel’s ex-wife was as well abused. Unfortunately she died a couple of years before the abduction of the 3 young girls were found.
How did these girls manage to escape from the Monster at the House of horror? Ariel Castro treated his daughter with Amanda Berry well. He was a father to Jocelyn who is now around 10-11 years old. He used to take her out of the house of horror. Taking her to Mickey D’s once in a while and shows her photos to random people introducing her as his girl friend’s daughter or his grandchild.
One morning of May 6 in 2013, the perpetrator Ariel Castro told Jocelyn that he will visit his mother and will be back after a couple of hours. He forgot to lock the main door. Or did he really forget to lock it? Jocelyn ran to her mom and told her “Mommy, daddy went out and left the door open.” Amanda asked her if she’s sure that her father really wasn’t there? Or he might just be testing them again if they will escape if he leaves the door open. She slowly went down the stairs and checked if he was there. To her surprise, the screen was only padlocked outside and the main door was 2 inches open. She rushed to the door and shouted for help. Until a couple of neighbors from across the house ran and forcefully broke the door. She then called 911 and informed them that she’s Amanda Berry, the woman who has been kidnapped for 10 years and that she’s alive and free. She asked for help to release two more girls inside the house.
Fast forward, Ariel Castro was caught at Mcdonald’s along with his two other brothers, Onil and Pedro Castro who were both so surprised when they were being asked by the police. They had no idea about what was happening.
Ariel was sentenced 1000 years in prison for Attempted murder, Aggravated Murder, Kidnapping, Rape and Assault. From his last words inside the court, he said that he is not a monster. That he is also a human. That there was harmony inside his house when the 3 young women were there. That they lived a normal life. And that he is just sick. He kept on making people believe that he had this kind of disease called Sexual Addiction.
The girls wanted Ariel to experience the same pain that they had experienced with him inside the prison. But same day of September 3 when a note was found inside his cell, “will be saved, God loves you, for all are sinners, we all fall short of the glory of God. Christ is my savior and yours!!” he was found dead. He committed suicide.
VIEWS AND OPINIONS
I am a fan of watching documented films, regardless if it’s long or short. I love learning things about other countries and how they manage to deal with different kinds of people and situation around the world.
Until I was brought to this documented file of the abduction of three women in Ohio who were found alive after 11 years. I watched it right away and got interested until I found out that they also made a movie entitled “Cleveland Abduction.”
I am a single mother, just like Michelle Knight and I definitely wouldn’t want my child to be abducted by anybody. Same goes with putting myself in the shoes of these women, what are you gonna do if you were one of them?
I always remind my daughter not to be to gullible. Most kidnappers abduct children or even, sometimes adults whom they find vulnerable.
We can never blame the three women or question them why the hell they took the ride with this man whom they only got the chance to talk to because they knew that he is the father of their workmate or classmate or someone they know. Things happen for a reason. We all have to be clever in these kinds of situations. However, we also have to consider that they were young girls when they were abducted.
I remember Michelle Knight on the day when Ariel Castro was sentenced 1000 years in prison, she said “You took 11 years of my life and now I got it back. I spent 11 years in hell and now your hell is just beginning”. I admire Michelle for being able to face Ariel Castro and for being able to stand strong for the other ladies inside the house of horror.
Michelle Knight’s life was far more different than the other two. She was not ok with her mom before she was abducted. Nobody looked for her when she was missing. Nobody lit a single candle for her. Her son was given away for adoption by her mom believing that she just ran away and that she didn’t want to look after her kid anymore.
After the 11 years of abduction she was given a family lawyer to help her find her son and to fight for her rights because she never intended to have her child adopted. It was her mother’s choice. Until one morning, she talked to her lawyer and told him that she realized that her son is now living a good life, and that he belongs to a responsible family who can offer him everything that Michelle won’t be able to give. So she just asked for a single photo of her son and accepted how things have changed.
Amanda Berry who happened to gave birth to Ariel Castro’s daughter was given a different treatment inside the house of horror. She was treated like his own wife. She was given her own room, a small room where she made a small kindergarten and taught her child everything that she could learn inside. She was a good mother, a perfect teacher and wonderful friend. She never taught her daughter to treat her father awfully. She never made her feel like they are captives inside the house. She taught her good manners. She learned to accept the fact that she will never ever get the chance to be free again and just learned that things won’t be the same again. She did that because she knew all along that she will be treated the other way around if she’d do that. I admire her for being one of the toughest mothers I know. She gave God her full trust that one day, she will still see herself getting married, have a wonderful family and live a normal life.
Gina De Jesus, who was the last person to be abducted never gave up seeing her family again. Amongst the three women, she has the funniest and coolest family. A year after she was reported missing, her family remembered her by having a vigil, praying and lighting candles for her. Ariel Castro even attended the vigil, lit a candle and hugged her mother saying, as neighbors, they are doing their best to find Gina. How cruel is that?
It was said that there was another woman who was abducted but was able to escape.
CLEVELAND, OH, – The house where three women who disappeared as teens about a decade ago were found alive on Monday is shown May 7, 2013 in Cleveland, Ohio. Amanda Berry, who went missing in 2003, Gina DeJesus, who went missing in 2004, and Michelle Knight, who went missing in 2002, were all found alive in the same house. Three suspects, all brothers, have been taken into custody. (Photo by Bill Pugliano/Getty Images)
Now the house of horror was already demolished and became a park full of plants.
I may have not have the full story or even more detailed delivery of how awful Ariel Castro was when he was still alive, but which ever way around, he was a monster and will forever be considered as a monster. He took the 11 wonderful years of these young women, gave them pain and made them suffer for the rest of their lives, put his family in vain, gave embarrassment to his own children, his own mother and everyone else in the neighborhood. His body is already dead but what he did still remains and his soul still suffers. But we are just humans, God is the only person who has the right to condemn or judge someone. He even forgives. And these 3 young ladies will soon learn to forgive but I’m sure they will never forget, and let’s leave it that way.
To Ariel Castro’s family, his mother, his siblings, especially his children, your lives must not be judged based on what he has done in the past. I know that it is very difficult to find a better way to live a normal life, just like what he made you of. He made you guys corpses, walking dead, all eyes on you, judging you, and changed your lives in a snap. But I still wish you all to have an ordinary life just like before. If we could change something in the past, we would’ve done better, but this is reality. All we can do is move on and continue living your lives. I admire each and everyone of you for being able to do your own part to the lives of these children after the abduction.
To Michelle Knight, you are a superwoman. I am a Filipina and I only knew your story when I got interested in the documentary. And I am telling you that you are one of the most wonderful people in the world. You are loved, you are beautiful, and you will always be part of the prayers of the people who love you anywhere in the world. Continue to be a blessing, continue to be a good person, continue to help other people and guide them especially young women in the world, and I wish you all the best. I am looking forward to hearing good stories and updates about your life in the future.
To Amanda Berry, no words can describe how good you are as a person. You, being a strong woman who fought for the life of your daughter, you, who accepted the fact that the child you were bearing for 9 months is a child of the person who abducted you, raped you and made your life miserable. You, who set aside the feelings of being destroyed and disturbed and gave your child the chance to live a normal life. I adore how you changed the life of your daughter, thinking about what others would do, if they were you. Because 70% might do otherwise. I wish you and your child a perfect family in the future. A man who will be a father to her and a husband to you. You are beautiful in and out. Continue to be a wonderful person and an awesome mother to Jocelyn.
To Gina De Jesus, you are one of the kindest people I’ve ever watched. With everything that happened to you in the house of horror, you showed your faithfulness to God and to your family that one day you will all be together again. At a very young age, you have become a fighter. What you have experienced inside the house of horror was really unacceptable, but how you handled it was extraordinary. I wish you and your family a stronger and a healthier life. You are a blessing to Michelle, Amanda and even Jocelyn. Continue to love your family. Keep your faith to God. Your personality is really admirable.
Kudos to these 3 women who have done so much in life at a very age and yet, became stronger and now helping people by guiding them, inspiring them, talking to them, reaching out to those who are in need and giving them the chance to live a normal life by being SURVIVORS.
They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree? Well at some point, maybe.
But why just MAYBE?
Some women act like ANGELS and become WITCHES at the end of the day, because of some reasons that I just stated on my blog about “HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR WOMAN”.
But how about MEN? Some women do not know how to take care of their men as well, hence they find love from other women.
Regardless of the age, WOMEN must make their MEN feel loved.
Let’s talk about some WAYS on how to take care of a man. Or no, should I say, WAYS to make him stay..? :p
Promises are made to be broken: Same with women, if you think you can not keep your promise, then just don’t. It’s as easy as 1,2,3. Women do have a superficial happiness and so do men. Both are humans, they both feel the same. Men are just seen to be stronger than women that’s why most women think they are more sensitive than men.
Let them talk: Listen to your woman and let your man talk as well. A man’s ego must be built not crushed.
USAE: Understand, Support, Acknowledge, Encourage. Understand what he thinks is right, Support his plans, Acknowledge his skills and Encourage him to be a better person. Never stop expressing your love with these 4 words. That’s all they needed.
Ask him out: Not because you are the girl/woman in the relationship you will always wait for your man to date you. You can always ask him out for dinner, treat him for a movie or do your reports at a coffee shop together. Once in a while is not bad.
Appreciate him forever: He will court you forever, then appreciate what he does for you and show him that every little thing that he has been doing counts. Big or small show him that you are grateful for having him.
Do not be a nagger: I get it. A woman usually gets mad and tries to be patient as much as she can. But they get mad because her man makes her do it. However, if a man does it and a woman gets mad and annoys him more, then they clash. REMEMBER, A man’s mistake + the woman’s madness = separation. You can always forgive a person. NOW, if you think you’ve given him chances already and you think it is already too much, then teach him a lesson. That’s the time you teach a person a lesson. But prevention is better than cure. So it’s just give and take. It won’t happen if you know how to take care of your man, and your woman won’t turn into a witch if you know how to treat her right.
Notes: Not because in most cultures, women receive flowers and gifts most of the time mean it is not proper to do the same to your man. Nope. You can always send him gifts, flowers or even leaving a small note telling him how handsome he is every day before leaving for work. Not the notes that tell him to pay the bills all the time. :p
Ask: Give yourself the right to ask your man about his day at work, about his friend, about his workmate, about his boss, or just random things. They need that.
Surprises: I have met many women and only 5% of 100 women surprise their husband or partner. Not because he is a man, he doesn’t deserve surprises. Hey! You are both humans and you both feel the same when it comes to surprises. Maybe, some women think that their partner won’t like it or appreciate it. QUESTION: Have you tried it? Most men are not showy. They won’t show that they like it but they do.
Love him: Follow the 9 ways on how to take care of your man, that explains number 10.
You see, we live based on the culture that we know and follow. But what if, just what if, we do the other way around, would it matter?
Not because he is a man he doesn’t deserve to be treated the way they treat their women. We give – we take. And vice versa. They also get hurt, they also cry, they also feel bad, they also experience pain. They are as well, FRAGILE.
So going back to the question, why just MAYBE? Because there are men who are also powerful, and they deserve to be treated like a king, just like how they treat their women as QUEENS. 🙂
They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree? Well at some point, maybe.
There are MEN who definitely won’t agree to this.. :p There are many reasons why they won’t agree, considering the status of a man in a woman’s life. It depends on the situation.
Why do WOMEN act like ANGELS and become WITCHES at the end of the day?
Because SOME MEN do not know how to take care of their WOMEN.
Regardless of the age, WOMEN should be treated right.
Let’s talk about some WAYS on how to take care of a woman. Or no, should I say, WAYS to make her remain like an ANGEL..? :p
Promises are made to be broken: Then do not make a promise that you cannot keep. AS SIMPLE AS THAT. Women do have a very superficial happiness. Apparently, they don’t show that and instead give you a tiger look when you promise to come home by 11 and she sees you early in the morning. Like at 5 in the morning.
Listen: Listen to her and never oppose to what she’s telling you NOT UNLESS you really think it is not right. YES, You have the right to state your own opinion, just be ready for your own world war III, or just remain quiet.
VATA: Value, Appreciate, Treasure and Admire her. Never stop expressing your love doing these 4 words.
Date her: Dating a woman doesn’t stop from the day you guys got married. Not because she gave birth to 4 kids and she gained a lot of weight mean you will stop dating her and will try to date someone else. NOPE! NOPE! NOPE! Remember, you loved her because you LOVE her, no reasons in loving. Otherwise, you will have to consider that as an affection. Watching a movie once in a while would do.
Court her forever: When I say court her forever doesn’t mean you will have to give her expensive gifts all the time nor sending her flowers at work. Well for sure you have already spent too much money on that when you were still in your first few months. Why not invite her for coffee, write simple notes, remind her how beautiful she is especially in the morning. We believe that women are more beautiful in the morning (even without makeup).
Be honest: I know that it is difficult to be VERY honest when you are in a relationship or when you are committed, but I think this is one of the rules in life. I’m sorry I can never change that. :p
Random Messages: Good morning beautiful! How’s your day sexy? Have you eaten your dinner love? Believe me, 95% of women would definitely feel a romantic excitement if she sees a message like that. Come on! A single message can already make her feel happy.
You do not have to ask: If you think she’d like that chocolate, just buy it. No need to ask. If you think she’d like the dress, just buy it. No need to ask. If you think she won’t like it. Just buy it! She’ll appreciate it regardless of the item.
Random surprises: Surprise! I came home early from work. How’s that? Surprise I got you a cup your favorite ice cream! Surprise I bought you a new pair of nude shoes. Surprise I am here at the parking lot of your office! Anything you planned to do to make her feel happy that she doesn’t know would definitely surprise her.
LOVE her: Follow the 9 ways on how to take care of your woman, that explains number 10.
You see, when you love a person you do not have to spend too much money to show her that you love her. Just spend TIME with her. And I bet she will be an angel forever.. :p Kidding. She will give you everything that you need and want in life.
So, going back to the question. They say, “WOMEN are POWERFUL”.. Do you agree?
WATCH OUT FOR the WAYS ON TO MAKE YOUR MAN HAPPY. Soon!