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They are awesome!

 

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“They are awesome, believe me. They are totally awesome.”

I wonder why some people treat babies, children, men, and women with extra chromosomes differently when they should be treated the same as others. Some people even call them names. Or look at them strangely as if, these humans are going to eat them alive.

Just a little knowledge for us to know, ordinarily, a newborn baby inherits a total of 46 chromosomes divided into 2 chromosomes from both parents. These 23 chromosomes match the other 23 from both the mother and father. The biological inaccuracy of the baby’s chromosomes may happen during the early stages of the development of the baby, (if I am not mistaken) which may lead to having more than 46 chromosomes in one child. That totals 22 chromosomes + 23 chromosomes on the other half which doctors may find not usual. In this case, a baby has EXTRA CHROMOSOMES. Extra chromosomes may happen in different situations, it may be inherited, the genes, the blood, or you are just LUCKY enough to be chosen as the parents of these wonderful babies. Is it normal? Well, it may not be the same as an ordinary set of chromosomes a person may have. However, they must be given the same treatment or attitude that we do towards other people.

Say, I have friends who have children who have extra chromosomes, and they are totally lovely. I am a very weak person when I see one, and it makes me cry because I am always, always overwhelmed by meeting children like them.

They are humans too, and they are wonderful humans. We actually all have to be thankful for having them around. They give us extra happiness and extra love. Which in return must be given, extra love, extra care, and extra understanding.

Some of them even graduated from college. Some of them are working for companies. Some of them even have their own families. And even if I do not know these people personally, I am so proud of their achievements. I am always overwhelmed by seeing them succeed. And I wish the other hundreds of them around the world to find the true happiness of their own choices too.

Now, I’d like to introduce one of the AWESOME CHILDREN that I know…

Meet Margarette, people call her GARI, and she’s extraordinary… People love her and I bet you will love her too. Her journey started when she was born in 2016…

Here are the 10 fun facts that you will love about EXTRAORDI_GARI…

1. She loves ANIMALS…

2. She loves HUGGING CUDDLY TOYS…

3. She loves TRAVELING and GOING TO THE BEACH… Her parents even named their resort in Boracay, “Gari’s Place”, don’t forget to visit!

4. She knows her responsibilities and duties at a very young age, such as household chores, and visiting her doctors regularly…

5. She loves dressing up different characters…

6. She loves being a fashionista just like her mom and sisters. In fact, she even participated in the Miss Possibilities 2018 with Ms. Nikki Valdez (one of the famous actresses in the Philippines).

7. She loves studying with her teachers, exploring new things, doing yoga with her mom and participates well in her swimming class. Guess what? She just received her first Certificate of Excellence for Outstanding Performance in class and achieving the Mister Cheerful award recently… Congratulations Gari!

8. She loves her awesome friends and they love her too…

9. She loves her family so much and they are also well-loved by Gari. And for them, she’s the best present ever!

10. She loves God more than anything else…

Now tell me, what’s not to love? Isn’t she lovely?

So guys out there, you have no idea, how families feel when their family members are being mocked only because others don’t see them the way they see themselves.

REMEMBER: We all have flaws too, you will never know what the future can bring.

Sending a lot of love and hugs to these AWESOME PEOPLE that I call.

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Kisses from Gariboo!

 

For more of Gari’s journey, follow her instagram account: extraordi_gari

Love Stories, The Anonymous Writer's Notebook

Is he the one?

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©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

PART 1:

I’m Jane, turning 29 this year. A businesswoman. Been working in the events industry for years and crying every time I see a bride walking down the aisle. Imagining myself as one. I’ve been curious about love for the past 2 decades. Fell in love many times and got hurt double the times I fell.

4 years ago, I broke up with my 4-year relationship and fell in love with another guy the following year. I was supposed to get married! Who doesn’t want to get married when you are in a relationship? But yeah. Expecting the end of that story, we broke up and all the wedding plans went back to zero. But hey! I went on with my life and just decided to stay focused on the business. Met another guy who AGAIN, broke my heart.

I do not want to be in a relationship anymore! I hate men! I hate it when they seem to be interested in me and one day they act as if they do not know me anymore! Sad life.

“Jane?” My mom woke me up one morning! “Yeah?” I answered yawning.

“We’re about to leave now! Please look after the business. Don’t forget to lock the doors when you get home later! See you next week!”

My family loves to travel. My parents travel whenever they want to. Who looks after the family business? I do. Well, time to get up! I gotta get myself back on the track.

“Good morning ma’am!”

“Hi! Good morning guys! Ready for today’s event? Shall we?”

Another wedding to celebrate! Another couple who found love. The bride looks beautiful. She’s stunning!

“Congratulations and best wishes Jane!” “I’m glad you’ve found the right man Jane!”

“Ma’am? Ma’am?” One staff just caught me daydreaming… AGAIN…

“Ah, yeah?” I answered stuttering.

“The couple is looking for you”

“Oh. Ok. Thank you!

“Hello! Congratulations and best wishes! Thank you for making us part of your big event.” That’s my 52nd time wishing another couple to have a wonderful marriage.

“Ms. Jane, I think you know some of our guests. They asked me if you are the event organizer.” The bride mentioned.

“Oh really? Who? Where are they?” I asked.

“The table at the backseat.” Pointing at my schoolmates back in High School.

“Oh! Yeah. They sure are! Will go greet them. Congratulations again!”

As I was heading to the table at the backseat, a guy was already smiling at me. I smiled back as if, I know him.

“Hey, Jane! How are you? The event is successful! You were able to pull it off! By the way, this is my cousin Gab, do you remember him?” That’s Kate. One of my schoolmates who lives somewhere in the neighborhood.

I couldn’t remember who this guy is, but believe me, I tried my best to recognize him.

“Hmmm, is he the one who you used to play with during our younger years? Wow! Gab! It’s nice to see you. How have you been doing?”

Gab is Kate’s cousin. He’s cute huh. He has changed. A lot. He used to be the fat guy who rides his skateboard bullying my friends when we were young. But he looks different now. A bearded but clean man.

“Hi, Jane! I’m good. Just got back from Australia. Got tired of working there. And just decided on putting up a business here instead. How about you? You look good!”

1 point! He said I look good!!!! Oh my effin’ God. Ok, Jane, calm down. He just appreciates beautiful people or maybe that’s his way of making a conversation. Or no! He’s just another guy who will hurt you! Come on! Give him a chance! Ok, that’s my 2 personalities fighting over a guy who just said I look good.

“Thank you! That’s nice to hear! Well, I’ve been busy managing the family business for years now. Married?”

Hey! Why did I ask that? Or did I just?! Ugh. Better to go straight to the point instead of beating around the bush.

“Oh, no. Team Single!” He answered while giggling.

What a great way to start a convo!

“Ms. Jane, the party is about to end, should we give them the cue of the last song?”

Why on earth is my staff not considering me having a conversation with this person of my target at this moment???

“I’m sorry guys, it’s really, really nice to see you all today, but I gotta work. Two bottles soon?” I offered, before leaving.

A couple of minutes later.

“It was a tiring day, guys, thank you all for today! You did a wonderful job! The guests and the client are all very happy! Let’s see each other at the office tomorrow okay? Take care on your way home!”

Engine on, AC on, ugh! A really tiring day. But it was all worth it! It’s time to go home.

1 text message received: “Hi Jane! Got your number from Kate! Sorry, we were not able to say goodbye because you were so busy a while ago. I hope the offer is still available tomorrow! 🙂 – Gab”

ROMANTIC EXCITEMENT AT IT’S FINEST!

Jane, listen, he just asked for your number, he just sent you a message. That’s what normal old friends do when they see people whom they have not seen for a long time!

— That’s my other self, reminding me to calm down.

“Sure! Invite Kate over for a cup of coffee or for a 2-bottle bonding at the cafe tomorrow. See you! :)”

9:00AM the following morning.

“Oh my dear! I bet you were so tired last night that you were not able to give yourself a warm bath before going to bed” That’s nana, waking me up. “Get up now! You have a meeting with your staff at 10 in the morning!”

Yawning. Thank You, Lord for another day! Checked my phone. And yeah! Just as I expected.

“Good morning Jane! So, see you later in the afternoon?”

It’s him! Quickly took a shower and went to the meeting. Oh, wait! I forgot to send a response!

“Yeah! See you at 2pm!”

Oh, that’s not me responding! That’s my number 1 self, pretending that there isn’t any excitement around the place. A very plain response!

1:00PM

Shoot! I only have an hour left before seeing them, but I haven’t finished my report yet! I bet mom’s gonna get mad again. But it will take me a long time before I finish this! Ugh.

“Jane, take it easy! One step at a time. Know your priorities, if he really likes you, he will wait for you. Remember, you have your duties before you saw him at the party yesterday. Try to manage your time instead.” That’s my number 1 self.

“Jane! It’s ok. You can just do that when you get home later! Besides, your mom will be back next week! She won’t notice!” Ya’ll know who that other side of me is.

“Hey! I’m at the cafe right now, trying to finish my work report for yesterday’s event. I’ll just wait for you guys here.” I listened to my number 1 self. In any case, I definitely do not want to do this when I get home later. Might not know what will happen next.

“Sure! We’ll be there by 2, and won’t bother you until you’re done.”

That’s sweet. ^^

Tic Toc Tic Toc Tic Toc…

“Hi Jane!”

“Hey Kate!” — “Oh Hi Gab! have a seat guys.”

“So are you done with your report?” He asked. “Do you need help?”

“Oh no, I’m fine. I’m about to save the file now. Just right in time.” Thank God, I was able to finish it before they arrived.

Closed my laptop. “So, coffee?” I offered.

“It’s fine, I should be asking that. Another cup?” He asked.

“Go, Go! Buy me one! And one for her too. So Jane! Going back to where we left yesterday.”

Ohhhhh my Kate.

“You know what? Gab has been asking about you since yesterday. Are you single? Are you married? What? Update me with your life.”

Why is Kate so eager to ask me these questions when it was supposed to be him!!! Evil look. I won’t invite Kate again next time LOL.

“Here’s for you! And here’s yours.”

“Thanks, Gab! To answer your question, I was supposed to be married by now, but a fool just ruined my life a few years back, so yeah. I am again, and still, SINGLE.”

“Are you not dating someone? Or do you have plans, maybe?”

Here we go! He already asked me.

“Dating is fine, I just hope, that one person that I will date next, will understand the line of business and work that I’m into. It’s not easy to manage a business in the events industry. There will be times that I’ll be very busy and times that I’ll be free, times that I am free and I will suddenly have to leave for an emergency meeting with a client.”

Did I just give him my schedule??

“Well, if a person is into you, I bet he won’t just understand what you are doing, he will or he must support you as well. It’s just a matter of time management I believe.”

Guys! I think this is it!!! What do you think???

To be continued…

 

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Come home to Bali Raya

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     Have you been to Bali? Or would you like to visit Bali Indonesia but you do not have time or enough money? Worry no more! There is a place in Laguna where you can feel the ambiance of Bali.

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BALI RAYA

This is Bali Raya Resort and Spa. From the word BALI + caliRAYA which located on the left side of the famous man-made lake in Caliraya Laguna. It definitely serves its purpose with the feels of Bali Indonesia.

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A family of large fish will welcome you upon entering the resort. Bali is known to have the majority of fish which are broadly distributed and is known for its various marine life in the waters of Bali.

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The ambiance will definitely let you feel like you are in Bali because of the well-constructed building and furniture.

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The Resort has several rooms to choose from.

It has rooms for couples, families, and friends.

It also offers free breakfast.

The Laguna breeze will make you feel like you wouldn’t want to go back to the city anymore.

So what are you waiting for? Come home to Bali raya!

 

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A Father’s love

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

 

A daughter’s first love,

Who gave her a pet dove.

Surely you will see him groove,

Together with his daughter’s groom.

 

Fave of a granddaughter,

Who will visit her forever

To bring her a burger,

Even in the stormiest weather.

 

A doctor, a carpenter,

An engineer or a bus driver,

As long as you love a little girl,

You’re considered a father.

 

He may seem Grumpy,

or sometimes tetchy,

But his love is always unconditional,

and definitely exceptional.

 

If he soon flies in heaven,

Don’t even think he became uneven.

He will surely be your angel,

And will fly at any angle.

 

Every father is unique,

Because in life, they all have their own technique.

Always dance with your father,

Before he goes to heaven’s Master.

 

Happy Father’s Day to the Dad who is already with the Master.

 

 

 

 

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The Love Guru

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

     She’s Back!!!!

The Love Guru has been receiving questions about love, life, business, struggles and success.. She may have not experience it all yet but people keep on coming back to her and asking her about her advice and opinion.

She will definitely answer all the questions soon..

Do not forget to subscribe to her Youtube Channel… She will be active there often..

Thanks everyone!

 

YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-eHJpGgPMlQTkHlJbFMXsg

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Is your SUMMER over?

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

      April of this year, I posted a blog about the start of summer in the philly… Talks about SOME of the famous beaches in the Philippines. How visitors enjoy their stay here and why Filipinos are so delighted of the country.

One of the beaches that I included there is CAGBALETE. Just a few weeks ago, I myself visited the place with some of my friends and discovered how beautiful the island is.

One of the resort owners in Lamon Bay (a large bay in the southern part of Luzon Island in the Philippines) happened to be our friend and offered us a tour in Pansacola Beach in Cagbalete whose owner happened to be his cousin.

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Pansacola Beach is a 40-minute travel by boat from Mauban Port. The beach resort almost certainly has the widest beachfront compared to other beach resorts in Cagbalete.

You just have to be there early, or you will have to walk a lot during low tide.

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Its white sand and very clear water gave us a strong desire of recommending the place to other people and to help them advertise the island.

Life in Cagbalete is very simple. We stayed here overnight and we really enjoyed the place and the company of each other because we weren’t able to use our cellphones for a long time.

There are some cottages that you can rent which provide you air-conditioned rooms. There are some small and large tables that you can rent as well if you would wish to stay and use a tent overnight.

Unfortunately, we were not able to rent a cottage since we came late so we all decided to sleep in a tent (P300 per tent). Glad we stayed there and we all experienced how difficult it is to stay in a tent unprepared.

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What made us love the place, even more, is when we looked for a store to buy something but since there are only a few numbers of stores in the area, we had to walk to the next town and saw how clean the place is.

Most of the stores in the island do not sell hard booze and cigars. (Beer is available at some stores though). You better make sure you have it with you on your way to the island. Granted that you have forgotten it, find some young locals playing or just hanging out, wasting much of their time walking there. You can ask them to buy some items for you, just give them P20.00 or so. They save money for their school “baon”.

There are also some locals selling souvenirs which cost a little, ranging from P10.00 to P150.00. Come on don’t be a jerk! Buy at least 3 pieces. It helps them feed their families.

At night, you will get to watch fire dancers performing for all the guests in a very loud music that can even make you dance, followed by fireworks.

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The heat of the sun the whole day was scorching. But everything was all worth the stay.

Thank you PANSACOLA BEACH, we’d love to visit the place again.

     So is your SUMMER over? Make sure to end it right and visit PANSACOLA BEACH RESORT in CAGBALETE.

 

Thank you Artystafoto for the photos that you provided us during our trip. Till our next adventure!

 

For inquiries:

artystafoto@gmail.com | Facebook.com/artystafoto

@artystafotoweddings | 09052211403

Daily Post Challenge

Roots 

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

Children are like plants,

they grow up with the ROOTS called PARENTS…

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horror

Something about Henry

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

I planned to change the genre of my story today. For I want to expand my skills in writing. Let’s try something which can make us feel frightened. Is this this really a true story? Or not? Let’s figure out.

“Woohoo! We’re gonna go to my happy place again! Thanks, hon. This is the best anniversary gift, You’ve ever given me.” Smiled. “Happy 15th anniversary my love.” He whispered.

Tin and Henry have been married for 15 years. They have a son who is now 7 years old. They love to travel. Because they both promised to each other that they will travel the world together. Tin is from a rich family who lived in Manila when she was young and she met Henry when she was little when they moved to the province, the day his dad lost his job.

“Hon, which pair of swimsuit would you like me to wear?” She asked. “Any would do” He answered. “Come on! pick the right one. Pink? Yellow? Blue? Come on hon, there aren’t any mirrors here, so pls. I just can’t see myself wearing it.”

For the past years of being together, they have had everything that they wanted. They have a big house, they have cars, they have a good family, the job is just right for them. In short, their life is just awesome. Yes, they have everything – except for – MIRRORS. That’s weird. Mirrors. What’s with mirrors huh? Same question that most Tin’s friends ask. They all wonder why there aren’t any mirror in their house. And that whenever they travel, they always look for a place or hotel where there aren’t any mirrors.

On the night of their anniversary, Henry asked Tin to marry him again, and to his surprise, she said yes for the second time. “Hon, I only have one wish, can we get married at the same church in the province, since it is very memorable for me?” “But of course. Anything that you want my love.” He replied.

After a few weeks of preparation, they went back to the province.

“So, Tin, why did you choose to get married here again instead of getting married in Manila?”

“Mom, Henry has no family. Henry lived here and this is where we met. This place is really memorable and special for the both of us. Besides, our ancestors are here. So might as well have it here again.” She answered.

“Honey, I hope you don’t mind. I have asked this several times, but I still want to ask where his family is? And where did you meet him? I know that it’s been 15 years since you guys got married. And he has been a good husband, father, and son-in-law, but I still want to know his family background.”

“Hon?”

“Oh, he’s home! Yes, hon, I’m coming! Let’s talk later mom!” Then she left

“I really don’t understand why she keeps on avoiding this topic every since she met him.”

“Let her be, I’m sure our daughter has her own reasons why.”

“I know, but Dad, she has changed ever since she met him, she was never like that before. I can still remember the day when we moved here in the province. Everything was okay. She was a happy kid, she was even playing with her siblings. They actually used to.. oh wait! She used to talk to herself in front of the mirror then..” wondering.

“The mirror. Dad! Come to think of it. They never had any mirror in their house in Manila. She never used mirrors even the small ones. I think there is something going on here that I have to figure out.”

“Dad, she used to talk to herself in front of the mirror of great grandpa’s old cabinet. She was 8 years old then. She looked really happy playing with herself in the mirror.”

“Sylvia, now, this is giving me goosebumps!” Dad said.

“Where is the mirror?!” both surprised, they saw the nanny coming next to them.

“I am sorry, but I heard you talking about it. Where is the cabinet where Tin used to talk herself to when she was young? Can I see it?”

“I think it is in the attic. That’s where dad placed it when Tin left this house after she got married 15 years ago.”

The three went to the attic. The parents were shocked with what they saw.

“Are you sure about this Nana?” Mother asked the nanny while she was slowly putting her palm on the surface of the mirror.

“Sshhh. This is terrifying!!! Your daughter was not talking to herself in the mirror when she was young. She was talking with someone inside the mirror.”

Tin’s family never met Henry’s family. She just introduced him a month before they got married. She believes that everything went well anyway.

“Tomorrow’s gonna be our wedding day… AGAIN.. I am just so excited! But hon, why are you here? You know, people here believe that couples should not see each other the night before their wedding day. hahaha”

He didn’t answer. Instead, he asked her a question.

“Hon? This is our second wedding, and I hope you aren’t hiding or keeping anything from me.”

“Hon, I have told you all my secrets, even the secret that I have kept for a long time. I even told you about the guy friend that I used to talk to in front of the mirror when I was young. It was a secret, he told me not to tell anybody. But I told you.”

“Yes. I know. But why did you tell me?” He asked.

“Because you are my husband. And I love you. I want you to know everything about me.”

“DIDN’T I TELL YOU NOT TO TELL ANYBODY? DIDN’T I TELL YOU TO KEEP IT AS A SECRET?”

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Speak out (The Journey of a Single Mother)

©2016 TheAnonymousWritersNotebook

And this is the first time I will talk about how difficult it is to be a single mother. I have always been proud of my kid and I don’t deny being a mother. This is the very first time, I will write something about her and our struggles in life together. And I am writing this so that I can at least inspire others with how strong I became as a person.

It takes a lot of courage to be a single mother. You have to be emotionally, spiritually and most especially financially stable for you to be able to raise a child.

When I got pregnant, the father of my child and I were not okay. I wasn’t even aware that I was pregnant since my monthly period is irregular. Until I reached the last month of my 1st trimester when I received a message from him asking me to check if I am pregnant because he said, he felt like I was. Bought a pregnancy test and checked with my 2 friends and voila! Yes, I was pregnant. It took me a long time before I informed my family about it. But the only thing I knew then was, I WILL BE A MOTHER SOON, whether or not I was ready, I was already decided that I will bring this child to the world and I will give her life. I wasn’t ready then YES, but it was quick. It was so quick that I already saw myself giving birth to a beautiful child.

FAST FORWARD… Before I gave birth, I was already annoyed and I was just trying to be patient since I was still pregnant and it might not be okay. Until after I gave birth, and I was still annoyed seeing him around BUT I told myself, I have to act normally in front of my family because I can’t just show them that I am not ok, or they will get hurt. No matter how annoying your partner is, you still have to protect them because the imperfection of your partner will always be seen as your imperfection too. (I think) so I had to protect him from my family.

Truth is, he was okay then. My family (especially my parents) treated him like as if he is their own child. But since he was still young that time, and he has a lot of family issues, he cannot decide on his own. His relatives usually decide for him. Which triggered my patience and made me decide that I don’t think I can stand this life with him, not having the courage to decide on his own. I woke up one morning and I felt like I don’t love this person anymore. I don’t see my future with him. I then asked him to leave the house and just go back to his family. He begged and asked me if he can still stay and to try to fix things over. But I have already decided. I told him that, now that you are already a father, you cannot even decide for yourself, what more in the future. I asked him to leave and I ended everything that day. Since then, I knew that I am already a strong person. I was fragile for a long time and very sensitive, but when I became a mother, I CHANGED.

FAST FORWARD… I changed my number and started anew. My parents didn’t ask me about what happened but they knew all along that something is wrong. I am the only girl among my siblings and I knew then that I caused them so much pain even without telling them the reason why.

My child grew up not seeing his father… UGH, well for the past 12 years of her existence? There were only less than 20 times. YES. 365 days x 12 years, that’s a total of 4,380 days. Days, months and years have gone by, he still gets the chance to see my kid (actually up until now) whenever he wants to. The problem is, he never really wanted to. Given the chance, I wouldn’t want it any other way. But my parents told me that I have to think of my child’s sake. That she may grow up not seeing or knowing who her father is. So for the longest time, I thought of my kid and how she’d feel about it. There were times that his family reached out and visited my kid but my child didn’t really want to spend even a day with them. I can’t blame her. She grew up not seeing them. She was so scared of going out with them and that they might not bring her back to our family after a day out. And for the record, I never said anything bad about them. Benefit of the doubt. Maybe she really felt like she cannot trust them because they didn’t exert some effort seeing her or visiting her when she was growing up.

Raised my child with the help of my family. Her first word, her first walk, her first smile and everything. Sending her to school, attending to her needs. It was just my family who guided me and helped me. Did they? for quiet some time, yes. They sent her some money for school, or birthday gifts but not always. Very seldom. And not constant.

Until one day, I realized that maybe, it is already time to forgive. So when he asked me out, I said, okay let’s have dinner together and let’s talk about our kid and her needs. When I was about to sit, that night, he suddenly asked me. “Why did you leave me?” I answered quickly. “After almost 10 years? You now have the guts to ask me? And I answered right away. The day when I asked you to leave was the day I felt like I don’t love you anymore. I didn’t even see my future with you. Your family has a lot of issues and instead of teaching you how to have a better family, they even tolerated your mistakes.” He was shocked and he spoke in a quiet manner. “Why didn’t you tell me then?”, I answered, “And what is it for? You should be thankful. That I broke up with you because after that, your life became better. You were able to graduate on time, you were able to buy your own car, you lived your life like as if you do not have any responsibilities, you were even able to travel abroad without thinking that you have a child to support.”. And then he said, “But my life would’ve been even better than that if you were with me along the way.” And I said, “No. Because I knew then that I was not made for you. My life became different from how I grew up in the past when I became a single mother. The struggle was real, but I don’t regret any of it when I see my child.” And then he became more quiet. And I suddenly said, “If you have a girlfriend, get married. You deserve to be happy. We were not made for each other. You always tell my family that I am the only girl who treated you this way. And that my heart is very hard to please. I am telling you now, that not all women are the same. 9 out of 10 will love you for who you are, and 1 will teach you for you to be a better person.” It was difficult to be in a relationship that you were not even sure if it is really meant for you or not. Not to mention that he has some other kids to support. The only thing I asked him and his family was not money, but to ATLEAST visit my child once in a while. But they never did.

My family and friends know me really well. They call me “Pusong Bato” which means having a heart as hard as a rock/stone in the urban language.  Because I don’t get hurt anymore. I don’t cry. The only thing that makes me cry is when I watch drama series. I swear! Kidding aside, I became this person when I learned one day, that I had too. I had to be stronger than before because I am the only person who can be this strong for my child. One day, my family will one by one die, my child will one day get married, and I still have to be even stronger tomorrow than what I became today because the only person who will take care of me in the future is just ME.

The struggle of being a single mother is real. I have given up a lot. People may not see the way I see it, but nobody knows it but me. It took me a long time to realize yes, but hey! I have changed. I even became wiser. Even in having a new relationship or commitment. I have to be. I have to learn from my mistakes.

For the past 12 years, I have learned that life doesn’t end where your troubles start. It ends when you’re done finding a solution to your problem. But do problems even end? No. You will be facing a lot of problems in the future and you have to learn how to anticipate things and find a solution yourself.

Why did I suddenly share this to you? Because I know that I am not the only person who is experiencing this kind of situation. That I am not the only single mother in the world, and that maybe, some of us in the club are having the same situation but do not know what to do. Maybe some of us do not even have the courage to speak up for themselves.

I say, stand for your right. We have given up a lot and experienced a lot of trials in being a single mother, but hey! We are still alive, it only means we have survived!

And guess what? My child is now about to graduate after 6 years in the elementary school without seeing his father sending him in the morning, or attending to every performance she has had in the past.

I always remind my child that I may not be able to give her a complete family but she has a family in me. I was, am and will always be thankful having the best family who guides me and helps me and my daughter all the time.

One day, my child will have her own family and I will never think twice treating her the way my family treated me when I became a single mother. I always tell her that she needs to be tough and she needs to have a good heart all the time. Believe in God and lend a hand to people who are in need. It’s not about having new gadgets or having a complete family. It’s about being a good person in and out.

I am very grateful and proud that my child is now about to start a new life in high school and I know that we will still be facing, even more, problems in the future together. But what matters is she got my back and I got hers too.

Thank you for reading and I hope this inspires single mothers and fathers out there!

This is the Anonymous Writer, 33 years old, single mother and this is my JOURNEY…

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BatanEscapade of Jus and Jayde

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It’s been ages since I last posted a blog.. And this is my very first post for this year.. Before I continue writing stories, I would like to share this wonderful bonding of my 2 friends in the Philippines. Cousins Jayde and Jus who visited one of the best places in The Phil. Batanes.. Check out the video and this is how you can get there.. ENJOY!

How to go to Batanes (IT – para sa mga nagtatanong po)

Airlines such as PAL and Skyjet fly from Manila to Batanes. As far as we are informed Skyjet flies on weekdays and weekends maliban sa TUESDAY. They only have flights in the morning. Ours was at 6:45. The plane left at exactly 6:45. Don’t be late. We arrived after an hour and 15 minutes. Batanes airfare can go as high as PHP10,000 one way but sometimes, you can score cheap tix whenever there are promos available or seat sale. Ours was 10k each (seat sale booked last year). Unlike in Boracay, there is 2go available or passenger boat that would take 10 hours. In Batanes there isn’t any available. However, manong driver told us that there is one which will take 5 days before you reach Batanes. (he didn’t mention the name though).

Arriving at the airport, you will have to pay P300 for the environmental fee in Basco. You will be given a map and a ticket, Make sure to keep it, you will use it later on.

Hotels and homestay abound in Basco. We stayed at Nanay Cita’s Homestay which is just a few minutes away from the airport. Just take a tricycle and pay for P30.00 to reach Nanay Cita’s. There are 5 available rooms. I suggest you rent the one on the rooftop. (Photo available here) All of the rooms are aiconditioned, but since it is very cold in Batanes, you can just tell Nanay that you will only use a fan. (3N4D, we only paid for 2100 for two.) It has it’s own restroom/bathroom and you are allowed to cook. She has a kubo where you can enjoy the relaxing view while having coffee or lunch. Since we arrived at 8ish, she prepared a free breakfast (egg, sinangag and tapa plus coffee).

We took a rest the morning we arrived and had our North Batan Tour after lunch. Nanay Cita will provide you a tricycle driver who will take you to your tour.

North Batan Tour – P1,000 (Don’t ask, you will understand when you get to experience it.)

> Valugan Boulder Beach (we didn’t swim LOL, mashadong mabato po). You will see different sizes of pebbles in layers. People in Batanes believe that if you make one yourself that day you visit Valugan Boulder Beach and it is still there the moment you get to come back, your wish will come true. (fingers crossed)
> Dipnaysupuan Japanese Tunnel – show your ticket. (the one that you paid upon arriving at the airport)
> Fundacion Pacita – they say, this is the most pricey hotel in Batanes where most actors stay. (Approx 8-12,000 per night.) They will allow you to take photos and take a tour inside if there aren’t any tourists. But if there are, you are only allowed to take photos outside, and the garden. There are food and drinks available too.
> Pagasa Weather Station
> Tukon Church or the famous Mt. Carmel Chapel – believe me their churches are really awesome, old and new.
> Vayang Rolling Hills – breath taking.
> Chadpidan Boulder Beach – sister of Valugan
> Naidi Hills / Basco Lighthouse – wear flats or sneakers, you wouldn’t want to have your feet numb and heavy with fatigue.
> Basco Town Proper

END OF DAY 1 – our moms cooked and prepared adobo and tocino on our first day. There aren’t any resto close to Nanay Cita’s. So it’s either you cook or take time to find a resto. It’s really tiring manay! You’d rather stay at home after a long trip. :p

We were scheduled to have our Sabtang Island tour the next morning, unfortunately it rained. So we decided to just have the South Batan Tour instead and wished for a sunny third day for our Sabtang tour.

South Batan Tour – P1,500 (Again, don’t ask, you will understand when you get to experience it.) My cousin ( Jaydilyn and I decided to take the tour at 12:00pm hoping that the sun will appear after lunch and voila! It did. Thank God.)

> Chawa View Deck
> Tayid lighthouse
> Racuh a Payaman (The famous Marlboro Country) – Manong told us, that a few decades back, an American came to visit Batanes and said that, Racuh a payaman looks like the famous MArlboro country so he named it after it.
> Imnajbu Beach (It rained a little so we were not able to enjoy the view for a long time)
> Imnajbu Point (Alapad Pass and Rock Formation) – The ruins of the old USCG LORAN Station can also be seen which is set to be opened as a museum in the next couple of years. This is known as The Little America during the American Era.
> Ruins at Sitio Songsong
> Honesty Coffee Shop – unfortunately the owner wasn’t there when we visited. We were not able to take photos with them.
> House of Dakay and the old Spanish Bridge – Yay for the son of Dakay whom we met personally on our trip.
> Homoron Blue Lagoon and White Beach – Talking about aqua blue? See it to believe it.
> Diura Fishing Vilage
> Mahatao Boat Shelter Port – This serves as a shelter to vessels bound for Itbayat and other boats during inclement weather.
> San Carlos Borromeo Church – the first stone-made church in Mahatao, which has it’s small souvenir shop and the famous Batanes Blank book archive which holds hundreds of hardbound books with blank pages. You can pick any number of a book and you can write anything there. (BTW, you will have to pay P100 upon entering)

END OF DAY 2. – We had to get back home before dinner so we can take a rest and tuck ourselves in bed early for our 5:15am tour in Sabtang. Received a message from Kuya Jun Castillo (everybody knows him) informing us of the tryc number who will take us to our last tour.

You will have to get dressed as early as 5:15 in the morning. Nanay Cita will wake you up and will call you once the jeepney arrives. Make sure to bring BAON (water, crackers, juice or whatever)

Sabtang Island Tour – P1000. You will pay P54.00 back and forth. There is only one jeepney available. So the one who will drive you to the port is the one who will be there after your tour. You will be asked to register your name. Do not forget the number of bags you’re taking with you.

Here we go! The water between Sabtang and Batan is known to be rough, tough and frightening. I dare you to try it. (Take 1 bonamin before riding aboard the Faluwa/Falowa boat. A 30-minute boat ride to the unforgettable island.

Arriving at the port, I shouted Kuya Jun’s name and he was there waiting for us, guiding us to our tryc driver kuya Eugene. The tryc in Sabtang is different from the usual ones that we get to see in Manila. Theirs is made of wood.

You will then have to go to the Tourism office and will be asked to pay P200 for the environmental fee.

> Sabtang Church
> Savidug Vilage – this is where you can see a lot of stone-made houses built in a small barrio. Where people live by means of farming, fishing and alike.
> St. Thomas Aquinas chapel and old Beaterio. (PS: they have a restroom)
> Chamantad Cove and Tinyan Viewpoint – where you can rent a complete outfit of Talugong, kanayi, basket and Vakul for P25.00 and take as much photos as you like. There are some small souvenir shops as well, which sell drinks and snacks too. We bought buko and ate pansit bihon packed in a some kinda leaf (I forgot the name).
> Chavayan Village – The first Nipa hut on the right is where you can find some traditional Ivatan costumes and headdresses being sold. You will meet Nanay, who will teach you how to make a Vakul.
> Chavayan Chapel
> Morong Beach, Mahayaw Arch and Nakabuang Cave – the driver will take you here right after a long day. PREPARE P300 for your lunch. I think that is where they really take the tourists.
> Sabtang Lighthouse
> Conscience Cafe and Souvenir shop – this was our last stop for this tour. Where we bought some bukayo and waited for the 1pm boat ride back to Basco.

Some people stay here overnight. (You can stay at a homestay next to Sabtang Lighthouse. If I am not mistaken, you will have to prepare P300 for an overnight stay.) We chose to have a day trip instead since our flight back to Manila the ff day was early. Make sure to be at the port before 1pm or you will have to stay overnight. That is the only schedule going back to Basco.

Manong jeepney (The same jeepney driver that morning) will be waiting for you and will drop you off at Nanay Cita’s.

We arrived at 2pm and decided to take a nap since we woke up early that day. At 4pm we walked to a store a few blocks away from Petron Gas Station where bikes are for rent. For only P25.00 for an hour, you can go visit some places in Basco. We went biking to the plaza where some food stalls and souvenir shops can be found. We also tried Phil’s Brew Cafe. They offer sweets and coffee of course. Sabi nga ni kuyang kapitbahay -MUST TRY!-

This was our DIY/Tipid Tour in Batanes. I suggest you visit Batanes for a week, because we were not able to visit Itbayat Island which is approx. 3-4 hours away from Basco. Considering the pricey airfare, if you are already there, stay for a week.

For goodies, you can purchase Ube Halaya for P100 per container, P35-P45 for Camote chips, Prices ranging from 25-100 for bukayo (different sizes), P30-P250 for souvenirs.

If you are a nature lover, go and experience the relaxing view and places in Batanes. They actually have an internet everywhere, but right after Bagyong Ferdie, most places had a problem with the connections. There are some areas which do not have any signal as well. I don’t suggest kids, especially toddlers because it requires you to a lot of walking, hiking and trekking. They will not enjoy it yet. Mind you, it’s really tiring.

Batanes is a very clean province. I only saw 3-4 tourists who were smoking. People are all kind and not boastful. They smile a lot. They are all fair and they all follow the standard rates in everything. You won’t see any streetchildren. (Manong driver mentioned that everybody works. So they are all busy and earning) Life in Batanes is very simple. It felt like as if we lived back where technology wasn’t a big deal yet.

Make sure to have have water with you all the time. It’s really hot.

PS: make sure to have a perky, active and funny buddy with you. 😊👍🏻
So, para sa mga nagtatanong – I hope this one helps! 🙂

Should you have concerns – Meron pa ba? Naisulat ko na ata lahat dito – just pm me. 🙂

Nanay cita’s number : 0939 919 3616
Kuya Eugene Castillo (Sabtang Island Tour) : 0935 965 5317

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ACCEPTANCE (Daily Post Challenge) MARCH ISSUE (The featured article of the month) The Dancing Baker

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“I’m gonna pursue my dream and I’m gonna get it step by step. Maybe little by little but atleast I know where I am going. This is the path that I chose and I know it is not too late. I’m gonna get over this quarterlife crisis really soon” 

                                                                                             -Pau Cabrega-

Who would’ve have thought at an early age, this young beautiful woman has already experienced a lot in life? Fell in love twice, got hurt, stumbled, got wounded, broke her heart three times, cried many times, became a failure once and so. But what made her really strong was when she stood up and told herself that she can make it!

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This is Pauline. Peers call her Pau. She is from the Philippines. Grew up in a wealthy, loving family, Pau, as the eldest, never felt the pressure from her very supportive parents. She grew up enjoying the adventures of life.

Having her own car, traveling abroad, learning the art of baking, joined and won in a pageant, gave a shot at a dancing club representing her country all over the world and alike.

Everyone thinks she is living the life of a perfect daughter. But she is just a human. She gets hurt, she tumbles down and she cries at every single moment of heartaches. She was once a failure herself. Got hurt by several men who were so stupid for not seeing the best in her. Until one day, she woke up, opened her eyes slowly, looked at the ceiling and whispered… “I can do this!”

She got up, picked her broken self together and showed people that she can be better than what she was yesterday.

And now, she is the manager of the family business located in Pagsanjan Laguna, Calle Arco.

Which is the most visited restaurant of celebrities in the Philippines and foreign countries.

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Bakes sweets and pastries, learning the art of everyday life and has already found the love of her life, who happened to be a chef as well.

You see, when you commit mistakes, you get hurt, you see yourself down and in trouble, you don’t end everything there. You must get up, and accept that life doesn’t stop there. Nobody is perfect and we don’t just learn everything by reading, we also learn things by experience.

Acceptance, Learning, and Execution are some of the things that we should consider in life to get us going.

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This is Pauline Cabrega, a beauty queen, a chef, a baker, a manager, a dancer and a wonderful person in and out.

Calle Arco, Pagsanjan Laguna, Philippines

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Satisfaction

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“Food means Happiness..Happiness means Satisfaction.. Satisfaction means Life..”

-TheAnonymousWriter-


 

El Panchito’s Fil-Mexican Restaurant

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