There are things that we cannot control… Like raining on a Monday noon even if the sun is scorching. There are moments that we cannot just leave behind… There are people that we cannot just shun… And there are instances that we cannot just avoid… Like hearing what most politicians have to say on a public interview or talk.
We are all very aware of what Senator Sotto said during the confirmation hearing before the commission’s appointment that brought up the status of Taguiwalo as a solo parent.
There are many reasons why solo parents are widely distributed in the world. A mother can be considered as a solo parent because she cannot just stand the shameless situation brought to her by her husband. Or she can be considered as one if she had been a battered wife in the past and cannot take what the husband was doing anymore. The father cannot attend to the needs of the children and the mother decided to get separated. Needless to say, solo parenting can also happen to fathers. There are as well many single fathers in the world. IT ISN’T A CRIME!
Senator Sotto said, “In the street language when you have children and you are single, ang tawag doon ay ‘na-ano lang.” Or YOU JUST GOT KNOCKED UP in English.
These are some of the things that we cannot CONTROL. We are all entitled to our own opinion. Most likely that was a joke from the senator. However, there are many people who can get affected with what he said because it can hurt those who grew up with having a single parent or being a single parent himself/herself.
Just in time for the upcoming celebration of mother’s day. I am a SINGLE MOTHER. And there are many things that I had to consider and still have to consider up until now. It isn’t easy being a single mother. I will have to think carefully about the things in the future and until the day I die.
Now, what is the difference between a single mother/father and a solo parent? There is a big difference between the two. You are a single mother or father. SINGLE means you do not have a partner. You do not belong to the club of couples, but you get help from people around you in raising your child/children. If you are a SOLO PARENT, you attend to the needs of your children, you work and feed your children and you keep the raises of your child. Moreover, a raped victim can also be considered as a solo parent for children grow up with their raped victim mothers which aren’t their fault. See there are many things that we should look thoughtfully for a long time before we come up with a decision whether or not it is big.
Yes, I was hurt when I heard about what the Senator said, but I cannot control his mind. Instead of getting affected with what he said, I figured out that I think I should just continue living a happier life planning for my daughter’s future and my future as a single/solo parent.
For sure, the issue will be brought up again on Mother’s day because that’s another thing that we cannot control. To Senator Sotto, I feel sad for what you have had to say to Taguiwalo including 10 other single/solo parents in the world.
It is easy to be a father, but it takes a lifetime to be a SINGLE MOTHER / MOTHER. And I say KUDOS to all the single/solo parents, BOTH mother and father in the world especially to all the MOTHERS who can carry themselves beautifully and SINGLEHANDEDLY raising more than 2 children on their own. You deserve to be treated like QUEENS.
To your mother, to his mother, to her mother, to my mother and all the mothers in the world including myself, A VERY HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!
“NOTHING CAN BEAT A MOTHER’S TOUCH!”
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